Butt sex. The butt of many a bad joke and quite possibly the subject of your wet dream last night. Over 60% of men and over 30% of women have been found to consider or participate in anal sex or anal play. If you happen to be one of those people, interested but perhaps worried about getting hurt, knowing how to prepare yourself for anal play can help you ease into the experience as nicely as a pleasantly scented lube.
Even if you are a seasoned anal enthusiast, a refresher on these four basic preparation tips will keep you ready for the next time you feel like inviting someone in through the backdoor.
1. Good hygiene is just good practice.
You can get down and dirty if you want to. When it comes to anal sex though, you might want to clean up first. Thoroughly.
Let me be blunt. You’re going to be sticking something – fingers, toys, dick – up your or someone else’s anal cavity. The same place that your body excretes solid waste. Cleaning up before anal play is necessary for a safe, pleasant, and ultimately healthy experience for all involved.
The best way to clean up is to use a water enema to remove the trace amount of waste left in your rectum. Water enemas are simple to use, widely available (just check out your local pharmacy) and relatively cheap. For more information on how to use it, check out this great article on proper enema use.
2. Play Before Taking the Plunge
You can’t – or at least you shouldn’t – jump into anal sex immediately. Unlike the vagina, which is a finely-tuned muscle made to receive and accommodate the “D”, your ass was only made to push out. That means that it’s going to need a bit more help getting ready.
Play around a bit. Allow you and your partner to explore. Make caressing and toying around both your and your partner’s anuses a normal part of sexual activity. Work up to being able to fit one finger, then two, then three comfortably inside your back entrance during anal play.
That way, once you are both relaxed and mentally prepared for anal sex, your bodies will be ready too.
3. Lube Is Your Best Friend
Use lube. Use it often. Have the bottle within reach just in case. Pour some on that ass. More. Pour it on before and during anal sex.
As soon as you get even the faintest inkling that you might need more, that the friction is increasing or getting a bit uncomfortable… that’s right. Put more lube on.
Lube is there for both your and your partner’s protection. Whether you are bending your partner over the side of a table, or you are the one bent over, lube ensures a smooth entrance and a safe, pleasantly slick exit.
4. Take Your Time
Whether you’re about to stick your hard, throbbing cock into someone’s already well-fucked ass or you’ve just recently worked up the nerve to use the smallest butt plug in your trainer kit, take your time.
As we mentioned before, the anal cavity – unlike the vagina – is made of muscles that are trying to push things out of the cavity. That means that taking things too fast can result in unnecessary pain, tears in the delicate tissue or worse injury, and most critically, infection.
Taking something in the opposite direction is typically a foreign experience for the body as well. So go slow. Be gentle and patient with yourself or your partner when playing around in there. And most importantly, enjoy the process of introducing yourself to an entirely new world of sensations and pleasures.
