For anyone that has ever looked up the words ‘parody porn’ or ‘role-play porn’ in their suspiciously history-free browser, they have seen first-hand how sexy – and fun – role-play can be.
Making the transition from your browser to your bedroom can seem a little daunting however. There’s the matter of letting your partner know you’ve been hankering to see him in a Halloween wolf mask while you prance around as Little Red Riding Hood and getting them to participate with you.
Before you scamper back into the safety of non-costumed sex, consider doing these six things to make your first role-play as pleasurable and immersive as possible.
Agree On The Roles You Want To Play
Nothing can kill the mood faster than only finding out your partner didn’t feel up to crawling on the floor and calling you “Master” the moment you tried to put a leash on her throat.
Knowing “who” you are talking to will make the scene flow much easier when it comes time to start playing.
Brainstorm BEFORE You Bang
I know. At first it might sound like planning out your scene isn’t the most panty-dropping activity you can do. Still, if you are into the rough-and-tumble kind of lovin’, it may be safer and a better experience all around if you have a roadmap going in.
There’s no harm done to the satisfaction both of you can get by deciding to know your scene will be a bit of bondage first, some good ole fashioned fucking next, and maybe a sprinkle of erotic punishment to finish!
Knowing at least loosely what you can expect (and whether it will be useful to have a safe word) during the scene can keep miscommunication, hurt feelings and accidentally over-stepped limits to a minimum.
Play A Little Fantasy Dress-Up
Dressing up to fit the fantasy you will act out is one of the easiest ways to create an immersive experience for you and your partner.
If you are planning to dress up as a naughty nurse or a sexy firefighter, there are plenty of ways to get the perfect costume for you, especially around Halloween where many blissfully short Adult costumes are available for purchase.
However, you may have to get a bit more creative with your wardrobe or look to more explicitly sex-oriented shops when looking for something niche to a particular fetish or something that is tantalizingly less tasteful.
Pick Out Some Music To Play
Playing music is a helpful tool for those first-time role players. It helps to fill any silences or any moments when you run out of words to say in your fervor to get much closer to your partner. If you’ve chosen a particularly sexy song, you and your partner have all you need to give a drool-worthy performance to each other.
Additionally, music can help set the scene. Playing “your song” as a couple is a great way to create a romantic atmosphere. You can choose more fast-paced songs for role-play scenes close to the stripper-loyal customer dynamic.
Most importantly, playing a song that you both relate to your scene can give your scene more meaning and make it a more intimate experience for you and your partner.
Props Make The Scene
One of the coolest things about role-playing with your partner is that you can incorporate items that wouldn’t normally be used in sex.
What sexy doctor costume wouldn’t be complete with a stethoscope (that you can also use to tease your seductive ward)? And certainly we can agree that a bondage scene with a selection of ropes or collars to use on your bound partner!
If you are going the classic Boss-Secretary scene, a good tie – a prop and a costume piece! – may be all you need to make your scene as engaging and arousing as you want.
Choose Your Perfect Role-Play Setting
Since we already know that sex outside of the bedroom can be just as awesome inside the bedroom, we can extend that to our fantasies as well. Being a submissive may be fun, but it might be even more fun in your partner’s impressive (and even a little intimidating) home office.
Maybe you don’t have any specific role you want to fill but you’ve always dreamed of taking your partner from behind while bathing in a luxurious bubble bath. Or perhaps your partner feeding you chocolates as you ride him and play video games is your idea of a great scene.
Perfect! Fantasies don’t always have to be about a particular role; a specific place like the countertop of your kitchen can be just as fun, if not more.
When you put these ingredients together (which you could whip during a five minute, hot and sweaty make-out “brainstorm” session, easy!) you get a whirlwind of new sensations and experiences. After the third fantasy-driven orgasm, you’ll finally agree that acting out your fantasy one of the best damn things you’ve done for yourself yet.