Whether you are pinching your nipples through your shirt or you are furiously fingering yourself beneath your underwear, masturbation is something you do for yourself. Revel in your own pleasure because it exists for you to enjoy!
As women, we often feel so pressured caring for the needs of others that we push our own needs to the side. Many of us get hung up on taking care of our significant other’s pleasure as well. While that certainly is important, not prioritizing the things that give you tingles where it counts can turn a pleasurable experience into a mechanical chore.
Especially if you are looking for ways to rekindle the passion in your relationship, learning to appreciate your body and what it really likes is often just the spark you need.
Learn What Makes You Feel Sexy
When’s the last time you looked at yourself and thought, Damn, I look good! Not your partner, not your kids or co-workers. You. If it’s been a while since you felt like a goddess incarnate, then some quality alone time is just what you need.
Treat yourself. Splurge on some drinks and dessert at your local pub. Get your nails done or if you really need some TLC take a long, relaxing break at a day spa.
Better yet, buy that vibrator with high reviews that made you moan from a single glance. Break out the risqué lingerie gathering dust in your drawer, and model it for yourself.
Make yourself feel as sexy as you want your partner to feel while you make love to them. That way, when you get the urge to let your hands wander over yourself, you can leave your insecurities behind.
Stop Your Mind From Wandering
Regardless of how you masturbate, part of masturbation is that the arousal you feel is so tempting you can’t pull away until you’ve found your completion.
But if you’re worrying about your next utility bill, whether you are ready enough for the coming work week, or if you forgot to buy enough bread at the store, all those delicious flashes of arousal are guaranteed to fall by the wayside.
When you’re pleasuring yourself, try to focus only on being in the moment. You might be on your back, legs splayed open. Or you might be laying down on your stomach, your bottom in the air as you give your clit the attention it needs.
Devoting all attention to your pleasure, to the way your body moves when you rub it just right, can make your worries disappear beneath a climactic whorl of excitement reserved just for you.
Do What Excites You
Your (or maybe just my) ideal masturbation session probably involves you dripping with insatiable arousal, writhing with one hand between your legs and the other holding your breast in a deliciously bruising grip.
Some prefer in gentle and relaxing, others take their pleasure by storm. Regardless of how you like it, what matters is that it excites you. Make it as fun, adventurous, romantic, kinky, and weird as you want. In this moment, it’s all for you.
Light some candles and touch yourself while enjoying a luxurious bubble bath. Tie yourself up with soft ropes (that you can get out of if you need to) while wearing the vibrating panties you bought last week. Bring your partner into the fun and have them watch!
Masturbation is not a dirty word anymore, and it certainly isn’t something to shy away from. So girls, let’s be bold and enjoy all that life has to offer, including those wonderful sensations you forgot your own fingers could give.